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| Grief Counseling Resource Guide: A Field Manual The NYS Office of Mental Health recently released a new "Grief Counseling Resource Guide: A Field Manual" that can be found in its entirety on the OMH website at http://www.omh.state.ny.us/omhweb/grief/. Following are the first two sections, that include inspiring -descriptions of how professionals can better listen and act more as 'companions' than as 'experts', essential elements as the emerging new recovery-centered staff posture and skillset. Introduction This manual has been developed as a guide for those who encounter individuals reacting to trauma related grief reactions in the course of their outreach work. It is hoped that this document will be helpful for both licensed mental health practitioners with limited experience working with individuals who are grieving as well as for paraprofessionals and outreach workers. Whenever a person is encountered who is experiencing severe reactions or complicating conditions for which the worker feels unqualified to address, consultation with an appropriate mental health professional and an appropriate referral for more formal services should be made. Section 1 Bereavement Counseling A Framework Elizabeth Kubler-Ross has taught us that we must see the bereaved people we serve and counsel as our teachers. We need to allow them to teach us what their experience is, rather than constructing some set of goals and expectations that we expect them to meet and achieve. In Zen Mind, Beginner's Mind, Shunryu Suzuki wrote, "In the beginner's mind there are many possibilities. In the expert's mind there are few." We are not the experts on anyone's grief. As bereavement workers we must meet the grieving without expectations about what should happen or what they should be feeling. There are no experts in this work. John Welshons, in his fine book entitled Awakening from Grief, states: "So there is no way to apply systems, rules or emotional road maps. Our job is to be a presence, rather than a savior. A companion, rather than a leader. A friend, rather than a teacher." (p 159) The Companioning Model of Bereavement caregiving developed by Dr. Alan D. Wolfelt is one in which we as bereavement caregivers help people to integrate life's losses by being present to them and observing them, companioning. He tells us that observance comes to us from ritual. It means not only "to watch out for", but "to keep and honor, to bear witness." Wolfelt elaborates on the companioning idea: -Companioning is about honoring the spirit; it is not about focusing on the intellect. -Companioning is about curiosity; it is not about expertise. -Companioning is about learning from others; it is not about teaching them. -Companioning is about walking alongside; it is not about leading. -Companioning is about being still; it is not about frantic movement forward. -Companioning is about discovering the gifts of sacred silence; it is not about filling every painful moment with words. -Companioning is about listening with the heart; it is not about analyzing with the head. -Companioning is about bearing witness to the struggles of others; it is not about directing those struggles. -Companioning is about being present to another person's pain; it is not about taking away the pain. -Companioning is about respecting disorder and confusion; it is not about imposing order and logic. -Companioning is about going to the wilderness of the soul with another human being; it is not about thinking you are responsible for finding the way out. (Part 3-The Forum. ADEC. N/D.98) Utilizing this model of bereavement caregiving, the helper: -Listens in a supportive manner to individuals' concerns. -Helps disaster survivors recognize that, in most cases, their emotional reactions are natural, normal, and to be expected. -Assists survivors to reduce additional stress by organizing and prioritizing day-today and recovery-related tasks. -Helps individuals to understand and recognize the wide range of reactions to trauma, such as numbness, frustration, confusion, anger, anxiety, sadness, and feelings of helplessness. -Assists individuals to draw on their own strengths and develop healthy coping mechanisms that permit them to gradually resume their pre-disaster level of functioning. -Sensitively and caringly helps individuals to grieve their losses in their own unique ways. -Systematically draws upon an array of recovery resources for appropriate referrals. The heart of grief counseling, according to Dr. Ken Doka, writer and lecturer in grief and loss, is validation. Grieving individuals need reassurance that what they are experiencing is normal. Counselors can help people understand and identify the ways they are reacting. Some people grieve through their expression of feelings. Others grieve through problem-solving, thinking, and activities. Doka, in a recent presentation (2002), maintains that there are many different ways in which individuals experience, express and adapt to loss. Source: NYS Office of Mental Health
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